I have issues with anger. Recently God has given me the grace to deal with things differently and it seems to me I should pass on what I am finding. Anger isn’t usually its own entity; it coats sadness, disappointment, fear, and other vulnerabilities in an attempt to never have to deal with them.
Anger is our intended answer to vulnerability. We will make people pay for trying to take us to places in ourselves we do not want to go. Places we ourselves are afraid of. We are the guard dogs of our worst fears and anxieties. So anger is a disordered way to signal others of our need for healing and help. We need to look at the core inside the ball of anger.
The answer then becomes having the courage to be vulnerable emotionally. To realize that what my anger turns me into is far, far worse than anything that could happen to me by being vulnerable. When we lower our guard we can see that the person we are being defensive with may need us too. We are both in the same boat and it is easy to capsize. To keep it right side up one must become interested in the other person.
Vulnerability leads to empathy. We realize that instead of trying to assault our vulnerabilities the other person is concerned with their own. We are able to respond to their fears, sadness, and disappointments. We help ourselves by getting out of ourselves. We help ourselves by focusing on others.
Empathy becomes the rescue line for those trapped behind the walls of anger. A rescue line we accept in our vulnerability. So look inside that ball of anger. See what it’s protecting and address it, don’t protect it inside anger.
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